Stay You

If you’re being bullied because you are fantastic and creative and different, or because you are smart and intelligent and passionate about things that your classmates might not understand, you’re probably going to be facing a lot of pressure to change.

One of the best pieces of advice I can give you is this: Don’t change.

Staying true to who you are, even in the face of unkindness from others, is so incredibly important in so many ways.

Firstly putting on an act and pretending to be someone you’re not is not sustainable. Pretending is exhausting, and will slowly wear you down, making you unhappy. Also unless you are an exceptional actor, sooner or later they’re going to find out who you are. So you might as well be honest from the start.

Secondly, being you and being different has distinct future advantages. While your bullies might appear to have the upper hand right now, in reality your quirks and exceptional qualities – your uniqueness, is actually one of your most valuable assets in today’s competitive job market and society. And it’s this that’s going to get you ahead of the bunch in a few years time.

I know it’s horrible right now, but try and put it into perspective. You have to struggle through a max of maybe 4 years of really tough time, but once you leave school and start following your passion, I promise you you’re going to find other amazing people just like you, who are going to be the best friends you’ve ever had. And with your exceptional qualities intact, you’re going to be able to carve out a place yourself in the adult world that will likely last a lot longer than 4 years.